Are you critical like this?

I write a lot about how women are often self deprecating because I think it’s really important for us to become aware of what we’re saying to and about ourselves.

It seems like every time we turn around another woman is criticized in the media for her looks.  It’s become so easy to do it to ourselves.

I have a wonderful friend who is often critical of her appearance.

“I’ve bad hair.”  "I'm old.”  "My butt is too big."  These are the things she says out loud to me.

I know I do it too, at times.  It’s really hard not to be critical when we live in a society that puts so much value on our looks.  However, I believe we have to be our own best friends and begin talking to and about ourselves in a much more positive way.

"Don't let your mind bully your body." - June Tomaso Wood

I know it’s a big leap to go from "I hate my hair." to "I love my hair."  Or, "I hate my body." to "I love my body."  Your brain has to be able to believe it.  So, it’s much better to take a slow approach.

A great start is to go from "I hate" to "I’m grateful."

Try it.  If hair is your “thing" (like it’s my friend’s thing), start with "I’m so happy and grateful I have hair."
 
That’s believable.  Right?

Once you’ve got that down, you begin saying another easy to believe affirmation like "I love when my hair is clean." or "I love my hair right after I get it cut and styled."

See how it’s a gradual process?  Eventually, you will work up to a point of being able to love your hair or whatever your “thing” is.

Now, it’s your turn.  What’s one thing you criticize yourself about?  How can you reframe what you say so that it’s positive and believable?

I’d love to hear from you! 

Saying nice things about yourself is sexy.
Adrienne